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Brooke’s Latest from the Huffington Post: “To Have and to Hold?”

Compass

Clients often ask when’s the right time to begin introducing this woman to my friends and family.   My brother is so judgmental.  My mother is a tough critic.  My sister is a walking embarrassment – – she asks all the questions that I have avoided asking: his desire for marriage, children, career, and why he chose to live in an outer borough.

Where am I in this relationship?

Conceptually, these questions and insecurities are likely warranted.  They are, however,  somewhat peripheral to the relationship between the two of you.  Perhaps a better barometer is the decision to bring her to a wedding.

Sure, you are celebrating another couple, but the two of you are now forced to independently reflect upon a lifetime together.  Today, a lifetime does not necessarily mean marriage, but it does mean a commitment that transcends the initial bliss that likely led to you inviting him to the wedding.  The groom looks handsome.  His bride is radiant.  You are surrounded by people, young and old, married, divorced, single who are all excited for the couple but also reflective as well.

Let’s make this about the two of you, with respect to the happy couple.  When you look into his eyes, is this the guy that forever represents?  Is this the female personification of what growing old together really means?

Continue reading on the Huffington Post:  To Have and to Hold

 

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