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Brooke’s Latest from The Huffington Post: “The Value of Valentine’s Day?”

Valentine’s Day is met each year with all manner of commentary.  Perhaps it’s good for the economy.  Florists do quite well.  Jewelers are busy.  Dim lit restaurants with ambiance make out (pardon the pun) like bandits.  In past years and past blogs, I have observed that there is no way out of Valentine’s Day if you are in a relationship.  I have also observed in past musings that the holiday is telling for those who have recently entered into a relationship.  This year, my observations are more relationship-centered.

For many of my clients in perhaps the strongest relationships, I have observed the following:  ‘We really have not figured it out yet.’  So naturally it would seem somewhat of a contradiction that the strongest relationships do not have the man with the plan of action.  The big night, without a detail missing, right down to the nostalgic restaurant.  Why is that?

In so many other thoughts, I have found that the man without the plan is less desirable because it might mean he has other, more important things to be doing.  Now, I am staring at the strongest relationships I know and there is no plan, no restaurant, no big gift.  ‘We’ll play it by year.’

Continue reading on the Huffington Post:  The Value of Valentine’s Day?



The Decision

During the summer of 2010, LeBron James announced that he was “taking his talents to South Beach”.  For four years, the consensus among sports fans outside of perhaps Miami was that LeBron’s delivery and not so much the Decision itself was all wrong.

This Saturday night, many single men and women will be awaiting a Decision.  The Decision may be that he’s made any plans at all to take her out this Valentine’s Day.  The Decision may be a much-anticipated proposal.  The Decision may be as simple as the correct restaurant.  So the Decision (and Valentine’s Day falls on Saturday no less) will be scrutinized, no doubt overanalyzed, and will be met with all manner of judgment.

There’s no way to sugarcoat this as I have tried to do in my previous musings.  It’s a big night.  Both men and women can cling to rationalizations that this is a Hallmark holiday (and perhaps they’re right),  but I have found that to be an excuse nearly as old as the tradition itself.  I do not claim to know much about LeBron James, except that after his Decision from four years prior, he was compelled to make another Decision.  That Decision did not involve a press conference, a dedicated hour on ESPN, but rather a return to a jilted lover (Cleveland) and the seeking of forgiveness for his past transgression.

As always, I would love to hear your thoughts.



No One is Getting Out of this One

It’s coming.  Married.  Single. Just dating.  No one is getting out of this one.  Valentine’s Day. If you have not phoned your florist yet, then my advice about pre-planning the flowers should be heeded next year.

The rest of my observations come from listening to heartache (“he did not do enough”), confusion (“he really went overboard and we’ve been on two dates”) or sadness (“I’m alone”) if you are going stag this year.

Take comfort.  You are not alone in this confusion.

If you are with someone whom you love, then be grateful if it’s not confusing, though it might be.  Quantum mechanics would seem less puzzling.  Red roses versus pink, earrings versus a necklace or even a handsome scarf versus the handsome tie.

I am at an equal loss when talking to clients.  There is one thing that I am certain of–pre-plan the flowers.

As always, I would love to hear your thoughts.