So you’ve been reading our blog for a few weeks and you know that communication is key. But you also have taken the time to read your significant other and you are pretty sure that he or she is on the same page. So here it goes – “the talk.” Here are some tips from our expert matchmaker, Brooke Wise, to help you get through the discussion smoothly.
Pick a time that is free of distractions. Do not call your boy/girl-friend at work and avoid first thing in the morning on the way to the office. Set aside a night that is free of distractions, when you are both in a lighthearted mood. Consider popping open a bottle of wine. And turn off the TV!
If you are planning a trip home for the holidays and want to invite your mate to come meet your family, this is a good time to bring it up and segue towards the relationship discussion. Otherwise, just take a deep breath and take the plunge! “I really enjoy the time we have been spending together and I want to make sure that we are on the same page and that both of us are ready to be in a committed relationship with one another.” We are paraphrasing of course so say whatever comes naturally. And see where the conversation takes you.
Avoid ultimatums such as “if you don’t want to commit to me I am leaving this relationship” unless you truly mean it. If you don’t follow through with the threat, you will be seen as a pushover who cannot be taken seriously.
If you are ready to take the relationship to the next level, we hope these tips serve you well. “The talk” is often associated with much anxiety, but embarking on the next stage of your relationship should be fun!