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Brooke’s Latest from The Huffington Post: “The Right Side”

It is Oscar season again, which means Hollywood has saved its more cerebral films for release.  I do not know what the cerebral film means exactly, except that historically Marvel comic movies tend not to be in the conversation.  That aside, Tom Ford, notably a fashion icon turned movie director, has released Nocturnal Animals, a film which has now become a part of the award conversation.

Recently, I watched an interview with Ford, who is easy on the eyes.  He described that he only liked to be photographed or interviewed on his good side.  This got me thinking that it is near impossible to control one’s good side on social media.  Sure, you can post a portrait or photograph for which you have artistic control.  More times than not, you are in a group picture and at the mercy of someone else’s camera phone.

After they capture sides of you that you never thought existed or cared to know about, these pictures are blasted into the public space.  Many times, these photographs might preserve memories but they are uniquely unflattering photographs.  Then what…

Too often people will stare at social media photographs and make an instant decision about dating someone who, unlike Ford, has sacrificed their good side in favor of the group picture.

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Brooke’s Latest from The Huffington Post: “The Virtual Love Affair…”

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At dawn, you quietly retreat to another room.  You can hardly control this impulse.

At breakfast, you throw your inhibitions to the wind as you stare into the abyss of what is quietly and slowly eating away at your commitment to a newfound relationship.

This love affair of yours is the by-product of Harvard minds.  Whether it was started by two athletic twins or the slightly awkward guy who wears the gray t-shirts, Facebook has become a central part of the culture.

Facebook is entertaining and informative. The unintended or intended consequences of its use is that it can be a habit-forming platform and can potentially damage relationships or prevent someone from entering into one.

There is no surgeon general warning attached to Facebook over-usage, but are we fooling ourselves?  It was not until the second half of the twentieth century that the dangers of smoking became a part of public discourse.

How will society view us in 100 years?  Will they say, “oh, they just did not know any better…the link between Facebook and…”

What we do know is that we are never alone with Facebook on our phones, tablets, laptops, computers, etc…It’s comforting, and we all lean on it a bit.  But to what end?

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Brooke’s latest from The Huffington Post: “The ELEPHANT in the room…”

Politics 2016 (1)You are sitting at the restaurant.  You remember the importance of eye contact.  You are on a first date and want to make a strong impression.  Suddenly, you cannot help but stare into her blue eyes.  They are remarkable.  So too is the bright, long red ties the waitstaff are wearing.

Between her blue eyes and these red ties, you find yourself stuck deep in thought.  Blue and red.  Red and blue. For years, you have avoided political discussions in the workplace.  You have hid your views from clients, patients or coworkers.  Yet, somewhere between her blue eyes and the long red tie of the waitress reciting the evening specials, how can you avoid discussing this presidential election?

If it were taboo in the past to discuss politics on a first date, what about now?  Is there something wrong with you if you have no opinion about Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton?  These are polarizing times–the elections of past years were perhaps less about the dramatic and more about where you stood politically.  This election, so my clients tell me, is an organic conversation, even on the first date, even as an ice breaker.

So perhaps we should throw old taboos out the window.  ‘How ’bout them Yankees’ could easily be replaced with ‘how ’bout this election?’

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Brooke’s Latest from the Huffington Post: “The Ex Factor…”

Man lifting womanAfter their split, the Eagles said they would get together again when Hell Freezes Over. When it froze, they found an easy title for their live album. Guns N’ Roses was pretty much gone. Yesterday, I read about the Not in this Lifetime Tour.

Bands are in precarious relationships. Ego, money, spotlight, fame, outside influences and we are sad to see them split.

People mourned the Beatles and that Zayne guy leaving One Direction….perhaps I should remove Zane from the same sentence as the Beatles. My apologies in advance. I do hope you keep reading.

I have found relationships end for similar reasons. The question I am frequently asked is as follows: “Do I get back together with him?” “Was she really right for me?” “Did we just have to see other people?”

I know of many couples that took longer than just a break, but sometimes years to reconnect, start anew, and connect.

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Brooke’s Latest from the Huffington Post: “Dry Wit & Sarcasm…Be Careful What you Wish for!”

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I hear from clients and those who date my clients that they desire someone to match their dry witty personality. This is a euphemism for I can dish it out.  The dry wit can be construed positively, for sure.  The man or woman with the dry wit has unbelievable observational powers.  You can sit on a park bench with them, people watch, and they can dissect a passerby with pinpoint accuracy.  They narrate the inner monologue of the rollerblader (no judgments), guy carrying the frisbee (again no judgments), and the thirty-three year old wearing his fraternity sweatshirt (now I’m judging a little).

Oh, but then she sets her dry, wit on you.  Can you handle it?  For some, it’s banter, slight ribbing and they can take it like a sport.  For others, it’s downright offensive.  It crosses from dry wit to teasing.   The late British author Anthony Powell described dry wit as follows: ‘there is no greater sign of innate misery than a love of teasing.’

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